Hard work?

Any man who tells me, "I 've worked hard in my life...there were ten and twelve hour days....times when I worked weekends..,,". does not impress or convince me. Nor does he gain my sympathy or respect until I get an answer to a further question, " And did you buy the groceries, do the cooking and washing up? And, when you were working so 'hard' did you do your own laundry? And did you ever care for children or aged relatives while you were working so 'hard'? And, if the answer is: "I did none of those things.", then I say to this "hard- working" man that he has never worked hard, and doesn't know what hard work is until he works long hours and does his own shopping, and cooking, etc.